He said he was in a parking lot. Police aren't going to touch an accident on private property.
~ That won’t happen… damage is minimal.
Absolutely no way that damage justifies replacing the door. It's difficult to tell from the OP's pictures but there is a very good chance the metal door skin can be corrected without paint or body work. Good PDR guys can work wonders. A good PDR guy might be able to repair the metal. If that is possible, all that needs to be painted would be the plastic door trim/garnish.
Carfax buys it's data from a lot of different sources. They also scour public records. A friend paid out of pocket to repair his bumper at a shop that does not report to Carfax. They used a OEM bumper from the dealer. The repair mysteriously showed up on a Carfax 3-4 months later. The body shop definitely did not report the repair. He got 3 estimates from different shops. They think the estimating software reported the data after the estimate. The VIN is inputed into the software to calculate the repair cost. And to generate a parts and materials list for the repair. I guess it's possible the dealer sold info too? I really have no idea? It was really strange.
Definitely have a couple of good PDR guys look at it also. That door skin might be repairable without body work if the paint is not broken. Only the door trim/garnish would need paint if PDR is possible. I'd even consider replacing the door trim/garnish with carbon fiber if that were the case.
